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Dari Abu Musa, ia berkata: "Perumpamaan orang mukmin dengan mukmin lainnya, laksana satu bangunan yg saling menguatkan satu sama lainnya. Perumpamaan teman yg saleh, laksana seorang penjual minyak wangi, meskipun kamu tidak mendapatkan minyak wanginya, namun kamu akan mendapatkan semerbak wanginya. Sedangkan perumpamaan teman yg buruk adalah laksana tukang pandai besi. Jika ia tidak membakarmu, maka percikan apinya akan mengenaimu. Seorang bendahara yg amanah, yg menunaikan apa yg telah diamanahkan padanya, maka baginya pahala seperti pahala salah seorang dari dua orang yg bersedekah. (HR. Ahmad Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal, No. 18798)

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